How would you react if your husband spanked you out of anger?

This is just an opinion. I think you are the one who needs to change. If your husband is the one providing for you, and he gives you all that money (10 K a month is a lot) for all your necessities, I would dare not complain. That is adding upto 10 K times 12=120 K a year. This is more than substantial for a family for a family of 3. Please consider that you are lucky to have a caring husband who just wants respect. As for the slap, I would suppose, his temper snapped upon waiting 2 hours for you outside. He does seem to love you very much. If you do not love him, leave him. But do not expect him to pamper you any longer. Respect each other, this is the foundation for love.